Confidence is a feeling of trust in one’s abilities, qualities, and judgment. It’s what makes or breaks us. Self-confidence might not sound like much but when it comes to your quality of life, confidence is the one of the biggest mental instruments you can use to make it better.

Confidence is needed everywhere. From developing trust in relationships to making you look like the better option being selected for a promotion. Confidence is the key to success in life.

How can you build your self-confidence so that you show up for life fully and be your best self? I have 3 strategies to share with you today.

#1. Stop comparing yourself with others.

“Comparison is the thief of joy” – C.S Lewis

Comparing yourself with others not only makes you insecure but subconsciously makes you look for flaws within yourself. When we envy someone for being beautiful or successful often we secretly wish we could be like them too. This leads to self dislike. Instead of comparing yourself to others, I suggest focusing on your own strengths instead. Know that you’re unique and awesome. Own it.

#2- Surround yourself with positive people.

You’re shaped by the people you surround yourself with. Being in a positive environment is very important because it molds you as a person. Have encouraging friends around you who lift you up instead of people who make jokes at your expense, or condescending remarks. If a friendship feels exhausting or makes you feel like you aren’t good enough and deserve less, then it’s time to have a tough conversation with them, set some boundaries and/or move on. Spend the majority of your time with those who you genuinely enjoy spending time with and are a positive influence in your life.

#3 Be kind to yourself.

If you talked to your friends like you talk to your yourself…. Would you still be friends? It’s easy to be kind to other people but neglect to give ourselves the same love and compassion. That said, in order to thrive, we need to be our own best friends. If you can acknowledge your friends qualities and successes why can’t you do the same for yourself? You deserve just as much kindness, love and appreciation as the next person. Be your biggest fan. Appreciate yourself and treat yourself the way you treat others. You deserve the best the world has to offer and self love starts with how you speak to yourself. Abusive language isn’t love. Speak to yourself with love. You’re going to make mistakes. Flaws exist. Why not love yourself anyway? Our weaknesses shape our character and make us the masterpieces that we are.